Crusty and the Narcissists Handbook. His guide for
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Manipulation Tactics
1. Deflecting
By deflecting focus from their own wrongdoings, the manipulator expects that others will forget about them and will ignore or even forget about what happened. It can be illustrated by the following:
Don’t examine me, (SFRX or Kyle) look at this shiny thing here! ($15B)
2. Putting Others into Defense Mode
Instead of addressing peoples concerns, admitting fault, or examining their own problematic behavior, the manipulator attacks others. By doing so, they hope to do two main things: (1) deflect attention from themselves and (2) make themselves look better by making others look worse. (Salvors destroy the marine environment)
They will say, No, no, youre the one doing horrible things, or, Yeah, but look at how awful this other person is.
Many people respond to criticism by trying to explain themselves. That is what the manipulator relies on. If you challenge the manipulators abusive behavior, they will attack you or someone else in the hope that you will stop examining them and start defending yourself or others.
Dont fall for it.
3. Lying to Look Better
As explained in the previous section, narcissistic manipulators try to make themselves look better by putting others down. If others look worse than they are, then maybe I will look better than I am.
But besides that, they also talk explicitly about themselves in an exaggerated and unnatural manner. They tend to brag a lot: how much money they have, how good at their job they are, how much better than others they are, how everyone is jealous of them, how everyone loves them, how great of a person they are, and so on.
The main mechanism here is lying, or at least gross exaggeration. If they have any accomplishments, they will exaggerate them, add to them, and make them look better than they are. However, they mostly just lie. They lie a lot. And at first it may seem confusing and you may even feel like you should give them the benefit of the doubt even if something looks suspicious. But after a while it’s clear that most, if not all, of the things coming out of their mouths are blatant lies. (Micah 19 convictions)
4. Victim-Blaming and Playing the Victim
Narcissistic manipulators are fake, fragile, and they are cowards. They pretend to be strong, call others weak and sensitive, bully and abuse people, but if you challenge them about their lies or stand up for yourself, they immediately start playing the fragile victim. Look, I’m being attacked! You're the real bully! They are so mean to me! (Micah pays folks to attack SFRX)
https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self...ojection#1