reminded me of an old joke: 2 women on a plane. one ( April) goes on and on about all the things her husband bought her and did for her. every once in a while the other lady( May), would get in a "bless your heart". April finally winds down and asks May "what has your husband done for you?" May replies: he paid for me to go to this counsler who taught me to say " bless your heart" instead of " who gives a f*ck".